One of the qualities I admire most is authenticity – those who are willing to be vulnerable and real, to share honestly and openly.
I used to believe that appearing strong = strong. Showing weakness = weak. Admitting fault = defeat.
I was wrong.
A friend taught me this about fifteen years ago. She spoke openly about her life, and I was shocked. I thought people were only supposed to share the good things and how well they handled things after the fact. But, here she was, sharing all her dross – and I was moved. She was courageous and powerful.
I realized, when I had pretended to be strong, I kept people out. No one knew the real me. I didn’t allow others to help or support me. I was fake. And I felt alone. And I was insecure.
I work at being authentic now. I see the power in heartfelt apologies, I know the strength in vulnerability. I see how connected we are when we share openly. It is a strength and a gift. I am grateful for this insight.
Since then, I’ve seen and love the work of Brene Brown. She has become famous for her work in vulnerability.
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” Brene Brown