Loving our partner when they are stressed or going through a difficult time takes a lot of conscious awareness and willingness.
How do we begin to love more, especially when it’s difficult?
1. Becoming more aware of ourselves and our own actions and reactions is an important first step. Even if you aren’t experiencing this kind of challenging situation with your partner right now, you can start to become more aware of yourself. Tune in to the way you love your partner this week. Are there times when it feels easy? Are you finding certain times more difficult? What made that so? What did you notice? Write your experiences down.
2. Notice the times (reflecting on the past or reporting current situations) where you notice your partner is not quite their usual self. Do you know what’s going on for them in other areas of their life? Can you see past what they are doing and help love them through it? Being curious and asking our partner from that perspective helps draw us closer. Make the effort to be curious about what your partner is going through and write down what happens.
3. Practice conscious loving all week, especially in times when it feels more challenging. Write down what you experience.
The most important thing we can do for ourselves, our partner and our relationship is to be more curious, become more connected and do what we can to reach out and really be there and love each other. Making a conscious effort to love more unconditionally can make a huge difference in a relationship.